Women who have been victimized by abuse often have trouble understanding the emotional toll it takes on their mental health. Some may benefit from understanding the many behaviors abuse entails. Others are aware of what domestic violence is. However, they can all agree on the fact that they feel as if they have entered another world, a place like the “twilight zone.” Even family and friends might be able to feel something peculiar is going on with a loved one.

Oftentimes, loved ones who are being abused show a different side of themselves. Family and friends may find it difficult to make sense of the abused person’s attitude or seemingly new personality. In many cases, the loved one appears to family and friends as someone they no longer know.

Reflecting on Domestic Violence Book Cover from author Lauren Makarov. A Pictured is a battered woman looking at her wedding ring

Women who are in relationships where domestic violence is occurring often feel as if they are “going crazy” or on the contrary, they may seek ways to justify or minimize the abuse in order to maintain their sanity. The book, Reflecting on Domestic Violence: Understanding the Emotional Aftermath, aims to explain the emotions created by abuse and why it is important to understand them.

In the book, abusive behaviors are associated with different emotions in order for the reader to identify each emotion felt as a result of being abused. In order for the book to flow smoothly, each emotion experienced due to abuse is found within its own chapter. Each chapter also has information identifying abusive behaviors and associates the emotional response of the abused victim to the behavior.

Poetry written by Lauren and other survivors has also been inserted into each chapter. The poetry serves as a unique identifier to allow the reader to experience the emotion being explored. Several of the poems were previously used in a support group setting and enabled the participants (victims of domestic violence) to better understand their own emotions.

For many of the women in the support group, the poetry encouraged writing therapy, which later became an integral part of their healing. The use of poetry proved to be a powerful tool in helping women identify with “the emotional roller-coaster” they experienced, which led to feeling as if they were “going crazy.” The poetry enabled the women to self reflect; thereby encouraging the beginning of their own psychotherapy. Other self-help books have been known to use daily meditations as a way to help people through crisis situations.

The book, Reflecting on Domestic Violence: Understanding the Emotional Aftermath, will enable women to find answers regarding their inner struggle of emotions which are directly the result of being abused. It will also help those who love them understand what the abused person is going through. Most importantly, it will gently guide the victims from emotional enlightenment toward the road that will mark the beginning of their healing.


The continuum of emotions one feels due to abuse in a relationship is explored through each chapter along with poetry to enhance reflection. Click here to read on for a synopsis of each of the ten chapters that compose the book, Reflecting on Domestic Violence – Understanding the Emotional Aftermath, from author and counselor Lauren Makarov.